What is Balance??

How do we have a relationship and maintain balance? Now this is a question I have pondered for many years. To me the big question is: what is balance in a relationship? Does it mean that one person is the controller and the other is the follower? Does it mean that two people constantly battle for the controlling position? Life is so complicated with balance, balance the budget, balance the ecology, balance work and pleasure...but none of these things seems to be accomplished with any type of ease. So when we watch everything around us, how do we, as a couple, managed to balance our relationship. When we get married we exchange the vows of for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health and to love each other til we die. But at no point does it ever tell us how to balance our relationship. What happens when "life" settles into our relationship and "life" turns our magical little world upside down. At some point every relationship feels the pull, the tug of war as one of the partners starts to slip from the balance of life. When this happens the other partner feels the strain, the confusion, lost and unsure as to where the relationship is going. I feel that a relationship is like riding a bicycle with training wheels. The bike always stays upright and balanced, if not, the training wheels brings it back to center. We all need training wheels throughout life....the seas get rough, but do settle back to smooth and so do most relationships. So hold onto your training wheels, use them and don't feel weak by using them. Sometimes our friends are our "training wheels" they can listen to our confusion and assist in the balance of life. So hold onto the ride, and be grateful for the once forgotten "training wheels!"